Happy Sunday Readers…. So I am stepping this blog up a notch, and I am considering introducing you guys to MY “current” cast of characters… but I am not too sure of how ready y’all are for that.
Ok, ok, ok (stop twisting my arm) you can meet them one at a time...
What’s the catch, right? I know… I often wonder that myself….lol… The catch is: he doesn’t give me “sweetmouth treatment” (my code word for eating pussy). You should know that this is usually a dealbreaker for me but his sex game is great… He makes me orgasm with a condom on… OMG, and that has NEVER happened before….!!! So with all the other things going for him it, the lack of sweetmouth isn’t that big deal for me. So I guess I am growing up… staring to realize what is more important when considering dating someone seriously. I am also trying to pace myself, which is hard to do because we spend a lot of time together AND because I am a loveaholic, I am wondering why he hasn’t asked me to be in a relationship yet. I know, I know, I don’t want to ruin it with him by forcing a relationship down his throat but how do I know what his intentions are? I’m not in love or anything close to it…. I am enjoying our time together but I wonder what am I to do when the months pass and my feelings/emotions get involved only to find out that he didn’t want to be “that” serious or that he is this way with all of his girls?
Ok so what do I do? … I tell myself daily to follow his lead. I look for clues of where this is headed but I just don’t know… I wish there was a thought bubble that would pop out over his head that would explain his thoughts, feelings, etc, about where this funship (relationship of fun, no emotions, no obligations, just fun) is going. I want to play it safe. I guess I want to play it like a man (for lack of better words) and absolutely not show my hand unless I have to. My desire is for him to court me then ask me to be his woman and we take it from there, but of course I can’t say that. So I will just keep chilling with him until I can’t take it anymore or a committed relationship is formed.
I want to hear your thoughts, your advice…. Let me know what you are thinking...tell me I am not the only one who thinks like this…..
Ok, ok, ok (stop twisting my arm) you can meet them one at a time...
**Names will have to be changed to protect the innocent** 
Tonight, you can meet the one that I have been spending a lot of time with his name is Vegas. Vegas is a caramel love, 6’4, approximately 300 lbs, with a robust laugh, personality and a beautiful G-spot penis. He is five years older than me. He is a true gentleman, he cooks with his own place, own car and is willing to bring me a Dr. Pepper late at night. Vegas calls several times throughout the day and we can easily spend 2 hours on the phone (so high school, yet soooo enjoyable). He is a fun, cocky, outgoing, independent man. He makes me smile and makes me feel good, inside and out. He is the kind of man that compliments my hair, clothes and bodies. He opens the passenger side door first and closes it once I am in the car (yes ladies, they still exist). He makes sure I am comfortable no matter where we are. He pays for dinner or anything I want before I can ever reach for my wallet. I love it, not because I am a gold-digger but because it is nice not to be an assertive, independent woman at all times. It feels good to be taken care of, especially by a man that is happy to do it. He is clean guy, works hard, likes to dress nice, with nice teeth and likes to wear condoms. Just in case you were wondering he is no stranger to me because we have known each other for over 12 years (hence the high level of comfort). We have been spending a lot of time together for the past almost 3 weeks and it feels like we picked up where we left off, although before now we were never intimate. What’s the catch, right? I know… I often wonder that myself….lol… The catch is: he doesn’t give me “sweetmouth treatment” (my code word for eating pussy). You should know that this is usually a dealbreaker for me but his sex game is great… He makes me orgasm with a condom on… OMG, and that has NEVER happened before….!!! So with all the other things going for him it, the lack of sweetmouth isn’t that big deal for me. So I guess I am growing up… staring to realize what is more important when considering dating someone seriously. I am also trying to pace myself, which is hard to do because we spend a lot of time together AND because I am a loveaholic, I am wondering why he hasn’t asked me to be in a relationship yet. I know, I know, I don’t want to ruin it with him by forcing a relationship down his throat but how do I know what his intentions are? I’m not in love or anything close to it…. I am enjoying our time together but I wonder what am I to do when the months pass and my feelings/emotions get involved only to find out that he didn’t want to be “that” serious or that he is this way with all of his girls?
Ok so what do I do? … I tell myself daily to follow his lead. I look for clues of where this is headed but I just don’t know… I wish there was a thought bubble that would pop out over his head that would explain his thoughts, feelings, etc, about where this funship (relationship of fun, no emotions, no obligations, just fun) is going. I want to play it safe. I guess I want to play it like a man (for lack of better words) and absolutely not show my hand unless I have to. My desire is for him to court me then ask me to be his woman and we take it from there, but of course I can’t say that. So I will just keep chilling with him until I can’t take it anymore or a committed relationship is formed.
I want to hear your thoughts, your advice…. Let me know what you are thinking...tell me I am not the only one who thinks like this…..
Personally, u shouldn't let his non-desire to drink from ur well determine the outcome of this could possibily lead to. My other half didn't either, but he has throughout the years every now and then. Sometimes his intervals r 2 long & I slip him a little message about it. Basically. If u can live w/o it then see what happens. He sounds like the kind of guy women want & don't have.
ReplyDeleteDefinitely sounds like a good man. Sit tight and enjoy the ride.
ReplyDeleteIt sounds as though he is already courting you. He may want to take things a little slow before declaring himself....I know I know having sex already is not necessarily taking it slow but at least he is into wearing condoms and able to satisfy with one on. As far as the sweetmouth treatment...I have a hard time with a guy who doesn't but he could be waiting for things to be more serious...men are so strange...so just roll with it....no pressure...just see where it goes. Continue to do you (and him LMAO)...DO NOT LOSE YOURSELF
ReplyDeleteThanks for the comments guys. I refuse to lose myself in this man, but he is very dreamy and hard to tame...lol... your advice is good, I just have to learn to take it easy and follow the flow which is extremely hard for me to do!!!... i will try....stay tuned so we can see how that goes.
ReplyDeleteSounds like a real nice way to begin the year. Enjoy the time you are having right now sounds like you good! Just let time take it's course and you will see where it takes you!
ReplyDeleteHe does sound like a good catch. Like the other ladies said men are so unpredictable...I would continue doing what you are doing (being yourself and try to let it flow naturally) Guys are not in to defining things until they are sure it will be worth it. Show him that you are worth it and eventually he wont want to share you with anyone else.
ReplyDeleteAs a first timer to your blog, I must say that I am impressed with your work, you always seem to amaze me with your talent...Keep up the good work.
ReplyDeleteAs one of your confidents...I am shocked that you are letting it MOSTLY hang out...maybe thats what you need to help you in your walk of LOVE.
I must say I didnt need to know any of this about Mr. Vegas...LOL.
On another note..."See with your eyes closed"...let the universe talk to you, it will tell you all you want hear. Rushing or pressure may scare Vegas off.
Lmao @ my sister: neither did I.. Vegas is full of tricks.
ReplyDeleteI am enjoying it all...the sharing is helping me to think clearer and see better with my eyes closed.
I am confident that he will choose me but I don't want to wait and he doesn't.
My suggestion is to have a conversation with him. Having those hard conversations help keep everyone on the same page. It will help you keep your feelings in check (hopefully) and enjoy the fun or end the fun; depending on what you want.
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