Confessions of a Loveaholic...

The power struggle between men and women is one that is ongoing and never-ending. Both genders come into dating with their own agendas, and this is where the miscommunication starts. Agendas may shift if the individuals involved become enamored with one another. But, from their first interaction, there is always a plan of action. The plan of action is to achieve power over the other person and get them to lean towards their goal. Some have no intentions on abusing the power. They only want their fair share and are willing to share. Others come into the game knowing what they want from the other person and are willing to manipulate to achieve their final goal; even if it means hurting the other person. The power shift between men and women goes as follows: In the beginning the woman is the one with the power and the man willingly gives it to her. Why? Because she has something he wants. He wants to have sex with her. His plan may shift later after he gets to know her. Then he may want...

The following are the basic rules that are needed to begin a fruitful relationship. In my opinion, to exclude one of these rules is to settle with a less than worthy man. These are the rules to dating a woman like me.... 1.Be gainfully employed. 2.Have no criminal record or DUI(s) 3.Have a healthy, positive relationship with your family. 4.Have a college education 5.Pay your bills. 6.Not be abusive – mentally, verbally or physically. 7.Not have a drinking or drug problem. 8.Be supportive without being domineering, be loving and caring without being needy or suffocating. 9.Appreciate and encourage my career and interests. 10.Be great in bed. I’ve been told by many men that “sometimes you just make mistakes” (DUI or criminal record). “The economy has really sucked, I just can’t find anything/make enough money” (be gainfully employed/pay your bills). “I just can’t get close enough to you” (suffocating – as in glued to the side of my hip while sitting on the sofa or...

Have you ever broken up with someone and after it was all said and done, you had ten more things you wish you would have said but never did? Allow me. I have gone through every man I have ever had any kind of relationship with and included him in the Ultimate Dear John letter. Dear John, After serious contemplation, I have decided that continuing this relationship with you is really not in my best interest. No, I am not concerned with what might be best for you because frankly, you never gave a shit if draining me financially was what was best for me. I also don’t think you were too concerned about my age until you thought that you could get arrested for fucking me – maybe you should have thought about that before you, as a 24 year old, agreed to go to a 17 year old’s prom. You didn’t seem to show too much concern when your cunt-ass ex-girlfriend egg’d my house – why would I care if I’m a sophomore dumping a senior? Can you really blame me for getting tired of you collecting acti...

What makes you happy? What is your absolute realtionship breaker and why? Why do you stay when all the signs say leave? Why do we fall in love with someone's potential instead of the person we are presented with? I would love to hear your thoughts to get this blog jumpstarted.... My perspective: I used to be stuck to certain prototype of man. A certain height, a certain complexion but as I get older. I have learn it doesn't matter how a man looks but rather about the qualities he possess. I am happy with a man that is kind and considerate. Of course I love a man with a rough edge but he has to still have an open mind to experience new things and expand his horizons. I want a man who isnt afraid to profess his love for me, protects and provides for me. Relationship breakers for me are: (1) blatant liars because that is a sign of blatant disrespect and then (2) no progression, we can not be dating and there is no progress. I don't have time to waste nor do I hav...